Stop Pleasing Everyone Else
This adulting shit ain’t for the weak of heart. I’m constantly juggling life; kids, job, sports schedules, meals, laundry, cleaning, spending time with my Husband, etc. It’s a long list of never-ending duties.
The one thing I have learned is that please everyone else just isn’t a priority. My responsibility for happiness end within the four walls of my home, otherwise you are shit outta luck.
I mean seriously, we spend all this time giving back to schools and volunteering our time but who is that for? All too many times, it is sucking the joy out of our lives. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not telling you to go out and quit everything you volunteer your time for but I am saying you should invest wisely. Don’t give all of yourself to a person or event that is completely ungrateful for what you are bringing to the table.
Sit there…right now, while you are reading this…..think about what you give your valuable time to and let me ask you this….
1) Does it bring you joy? (Don’t get all Marie Kondo on me, I’m serious!)
If you are miserable while volunteering you are most likely doing it via a feeling of obligation. You are not REQUIRED to do things. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you have to stress yourself out.
2) Do you feel valued or used?
When you volunteer your time for an organization it’s easy to get caught up in the yes. Sometimes you work with people who “yes” just as much as you so feel incredibly grateful to have you by their side. Then you have times when you are the only person saying yes because you are being used. Don’t let someone use you and take advantage of you because they are too lazy to do it themselves.
3) Is volunteering yourself putting stress on your family?
I spent years being the PTO President for my kids school. I liked doing it but after the 6th year it was getting a little old for my husband. He wasn’t being selfish but our kids were getting older and it was time to spend more QT together. We compromised and I took a much less demanding role in the PTO. Win-win for both of us.
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