This adulting shit ain’t for the weak of heart. I’m constantly juggling life; kids, job, sports schedules, meals, laundry, cleaning, spending time with my Husband, etc. It’s a long list of never-ending duties.
The one thing I have learned is that please everyone else just isn’t a priority. My responsibility for happiness end within the four walls of my home, otherwise you are shit outta luck.
I mean seriously, we spend all this time giving back to schools and volunteering our time but who is that for? All too many times, it is sucking the joy out of our lives. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not telling you to go out and quit everything you volunteer your time for but I am saying you should invest wisely. Don’t give all of yourself to a person or event that is completely ungrateful for what you are bringing to the table.
Sit there…right now, while you are reading this…..think about what you give your valuable time to and let me ask you this….
1) Does it bring you joy? (Don’t get all Marie Kondo on me, I’m serious!)
If you are miserable while volunteering you are most likely doing it via a feeling of obligation. You are not REQUIRED to do things. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you have to stress yourself out.
2) Do you feel valued or used?
When you volunteer your time for an organization it’s easy to get caught up in the yes. Sometimes you work with people who “yes” just as much as you so feel incredibly grateful to have you by their side. Then you have times when you are the only person saying yes because you are being used. Don’t let someone use you and take advantage of you because they are too lazy to do it themselves.
3) Is volunteering yourself putting stress on your family?
I spent years being the PTO President for my kids school. I liked doing it but after the 6th year it was getting a little old for my husband. He wasn’t being selfish but our kids were getting older and it was time to spend more QT together. We compromised and I took a much less demanding role in the PTO. Win-win for both of us.
I have two children. One outgoing and active girl. One introverted and mostly quiet boy.
I've struggled for years with wondering how to get my son out of his shell. Most of the time I feel like a failure.
I'm don't think anything is wrong with being an introvert. But I don't want him spending the rest of his life in the shadows of others. Today, I received an update on his Physical Education grade, he got a not so hot grade and the reason listed? Attitude.
I think he has a hard time communicating his feelings. Now, more than ever, I feel the need to nip it in the bud. He is 14 years old and will soon be a man. I need to teach him to communicate and deal with his anger in a healthy way.
Do you have any suggestions?
The #Last90Days Challenge....ever heard of it?
I hadn't, until last week.
While I'm obviously a newbie, the notion is to end the year with the same amount of excitement and positive vibes that we have on New Year's Day. Staying accountable to ourselves (AKA - not binging for 3 months due to the holiday's coming up) and pushing ourselves to do great things.
I started this morning with a fresh outlook. I want, no NEED, to push myself further. I'm capable of so much more than I'm giving myself credit. The one activity I really loved this morning was writing down ten things that I a grateful for. My top fives items really put things into perspective for me:
1. My husband
2. My Children
3. Our home
4. My career
It's incredibly easy to take things for granted but when you are writing it down for yourself it makes everything else in the world seem so insignificant.
What would be on your Grateful List?
Be sure to check out the challenge for yourself here: https://thechicsite.com/90days/
I feel like every morning I ask myself this question. Don’t get me wrong, I’m blessed with a full-time career that I love MOST of the time. If it weren’t for the commute, I would love it way more. But I go through life feeling like something is missing.
I love photography. Love it, like obsessively. When I’m behind the lens I feel as though I’m capturing stories to preserve for eternity.
But is it something I can do and still make an honest living? I have no clue.
Maybe that is what holds me back from pursuing my dreams. Maybe I question my talent…skill…creativity. Maybe I worry that I will fail and not have my comfy career to fall back on. Whatever the reason is for holding me back, it’s something I have been contemplating more and more lately.
I don’t want to spend my life not doing what I love. Especially when it’s something that has the potential to set me free.
Is there something that sets your soul on fire? Something you would love to pursue but are too afraid to push forward?